
I learned three things from this adorable, amazing audiobook:
1. Christopher Guest's movies are improvised. No script, just character backstories. (!)
2. David Fincher, the director of Seven, directed the “Vogue” Madonna video.
3. Jane Lynch is as warm and sweet as I had hoped, and I want to have a cup of coffee with her. No, scratch that, I want to watch silly movies and talk all night with her. There, I said it. Let the restraining order commence.
Even though some actions recommended in this book would be considered boundary violations for a therapist, it was still refreshing to read a book about what I do (intensive in-home counseling).
As a therapist working with a young child who is violent, I was offended by one passage. The authors were expressing shock that a four-year-old was on a psychiatric hospital ward with twelve-year-olds. They had inquired, and learned that the small child was hospitalized after pulling a knife on her mother. A parenthetical aside was made to this effect: “Why wouldn't her mother just take the knife from her? Problem solved.” Such a statement shows no empathy for a family who is trying to manage a violent child, and echoes what parents are probably already hearing from teachers, social workers, and other “helping” professionals.
Reading this book, I kept thinking that her symptoms seemed to reflect bipolar disorder, perhaps complicated by BPD, rather than a depressive disorder. The chaos, the neediness, the need for others to prove their love, and, most telling, others' responses to her behavior spoke to me as BPD...which would allow explain other readers' irritation/revulsion.
This quote sums the entire horrifying book to me:
Almost four years had passed since Shirley [the real Sybil] first walked into Connie's [Dr. Wilbur] office as an upbeat graduate student with nagging but bearable emotional problems. Now, after hundreds of hours of therapy and countless pills, shots, and machine-induced convulsions, she was a thirty-five-year-old junkie who spent most of her time in bed and who, when she did get up, checked her mailbox for money from her father, or wandered the streets muttering to herself.