ParentSpeak

This book is worth reading simply to make you think about the implications of common phrases you'd never otherwise think about. It's particularly relevant for parents, obviously, but as most people interact with children on some level it's on my books everyone should read list. The chapter “Behave Yourself” is the best.

It's less important that you agree with everything she puts forward, and more about making an informed decision on how you are choosing to parent your child and updating your language accordingly. It's amazing how universal (in the US) things like forced sharing and apologies are without a second thought as to whether they're even beneficial at all.