Why Does He Do That?
Inside the Minds of Abusive and Controlling Men
2002 • 432 pages
Ratings12
Average rating4.4
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Inside the Minds of Abusive and Controlling Men
Ratings12
Average rating4.4
In this groundbreaking bestseller, Lundy Bancroft—a counselor who specializes in working with abusive men—uses his knowledge about how abusers think to help women recognize when they are being controlled or devalued, and to find ways to get free of an abusive relationship.
He says he loves you. So…why does he do that?
You’ve asked yourself this question again and again. Now you have the chance to see inside the minds of angry and controlling men—and change your life. In Why Does He Do That? you will learn about:
• The early warning signs of abuse
• The nature of abusive thinking
• Myths about abusers
• Ten abusive personality types
• The role of drugs and alcohol
• What you can fix, and what you can’t
• And how to get out of an abusive relationship safely
“This is without a doubt the most informative and useful book yet written on the subject of abusive men. Women who are armed with the insights found in these pages will be on the road to recovering control of their lives.”—Jay G. Silverman, Ph.D., Director, Violence Prevention Programs, Harvard School of Public Health
Reviews with the most likes.
This book was phenomenal and I would recommend it to anyone. Everyone should read it. Particular chapters beneficial to me were ones in which the author outlined how society, courts, and individuals unintentionally support abusers. While I've lived free from abuse in my relationships, I can be an ally for others.
Critiques from surfing other reviews have pointed out how “heterosexual” this book is, focusing mainly on male on female abuse. I would be eager to read a book that focuses on other types of relationships, however that doesn't take from the importance of this book. It was still very thorough in explaining myths surrounding abuse, types of abuse, features that transcend these types, how abusive attitudes emerge, etc. I learned A LOT reading this.
