I don't know why I keep reading these comedian memoirs expecting something other than occasional hilarity and a lot of boring ego stroking. I think I'm seeking something funny and light, but also honest and well-crafted. Dear Girls is not that book, but it is occasionally very funny. I particularly enjoyed the chapters on pregnancy and childbirth.
It feels wrong to rate someone's memoir, as if you're ranking their life and pain. My two-star rating is based only on the writing and pacing of this book and is no way reflective of JVN's struggles and triumphs. Jonathan is an amazing and powerful presence, and I hope this book is inspirational to many. It's not, however, well crafted or edited. The timeline, especially in the beginning, is all over the place, leaving the reader immensely confused about what happened & when. Cliches abound, and JVN doesn't really touch on how he overcame addiction, abuse, and depression, other than the generic “self-love and care.”
Until about 2/3 of the way through, I believed this was two different books trying to live in one pair of pants. Then Russo brought them together in a poignant and unexpected way, given the way female victims are often portrayed in literature (that is, as objects or flashes in someone else's - a man's - life).
Perhaps this grievance is unique to those who have lived in Colorado, but this story centers around the unique culture of Boulder - the 1%ers striving for authenticity through exercise, nature, food, and ethical shopping, reliant on those who can't afford to live there to keep the city functioning - but renames the town. Pearl Street Mall is rechristened Emerald Mall, the Flatirons are now the Redirons, Boulder is Crystal, etc. This drove me B-A-N-A-N-A-S. We all understand what fiction is - just use the city's name, for pete's sake.
While it may lack cohesion and some snippets are stronger (and funnier) stories than others, Haddish is incredibly funny. I enjoyed her reading the audiobook - I think some of the repetitions wouldn't have worked as well on the written page. With the exception of the chapter on her ex-husband, this had me laughing for sure. Haddish is strong and overcome a lot to fulfill her dreams.
This was powerful and engaging, as well as a window into the life of Muslim immigrants in America. I think it would be even stronger if we had Fareeda's back story in parallel with Deya and Isra's stories. I felt the author was unsympathetic to Fareeda, even in Fareeda's chapters. It could be enlightening to see more of how Fareeda's life in the refugee camp shaped her future, and the lives of her daughters, daughters-in-law, and granddaughters.
Can I give the first third of the book 4 stars and the remaining 2/3 1 star? I thought this would be a collection of essays about, you know, dead girls in popular culture. The first part does that exceptionally well, with lots of fodder to re-think all the mystery and crime novels I've been reading. I found most of Bolin's own essays to be navel-gazing L.A. bullshit.