Buy Yourself the F*cking Lilies

Ooooooooo I absolutely loved this book. I have read a lot of works that are part of this ‘self-help' genre, but Tara's take on self-love and acceptance was completely different than those that I have read previously. She embraces the messy, chaotic, sticky, uncomfortable truly exasperating things about being an individual with lots of trauma and hardships to work through. Instead she writes about how hate is okay and how angst and absolute loathing of situations, people and yourself is an essential part of the process. I feel as though other authors just state “let go”, but HOW am I supposed to f*cking let go when I literally spent my whole teenage experience in heavy eyeliner and a bad attitude (the angst has not changed). I saw so much of myself in the stories that Tara told about her life and it made me feel seen, It's okay to be angry and feel shitty about your childhood, your lack of significant other, feeling behind, your career, your friendships, etc. But write that down, work through it. Tara gives a billion (literally so many) simple exercises/ways to combat or work through things that are so low stakes you have to be absolutely nuts not to try. I really wish that this came with a workbook though (I listened to the audiobook though) because there was just so much to absorb and so much good to hear. TARA, ARE YOU LISTENING???????????? You can credit K$ with the inspo via GoodReads. Also, like can we just be friends? I love you. Please do book signings so I can give you all the hugs and convince you to come have 3 drinks max with me at a local bar in western Mass. Love you love you love you and cannot wait to see what else you have up your sleeve! -K