Click: The Magic of Instant Connections

About the book: Click delves into the miraculous topic of quick-set intimacy and explores what's at work when we're instantly drawn to some person or thing. It examines how and why clicking makes our life more meaningful and outlines the (very ordinary) factors that can make such “magical” connections more likely.

About the author: Together, brothers Ori and Rom Brafman have authored two New York Times bestsellers – Sway and Click. When not writing, Ori Brafman is an organizational business consultant and the co-founder of a network fostering peace and development projects. Psychologist Rom Brafman won awards for excellence in teaching and promoting positive human growth. He has a private practice in Palo Alto.

Clicking makes relationships special. clicking can lend a special quality to the relationships that it initiates
We perform better in the company of people we click with. who click are able to discuss difficult matters in a positive, constructive way
A team that clicks is also more creative and able to make unconventional, even daring decisions.
If you make yourself vulnerable to others, you're more likely to click with them. If you deliberately make yourself vulnerable by revealing your emotions, weaknesses and fears, you signal to other people that you trust them. In turn, those people will be more likely to trust you and instinctively reciprocate by making themselves vulnerable too.The openness that this promotes can lead to an intimate connection being established
Posing a series of probing and increasingly intimate questions.
When it comes to clicking, spatial proximity also plays a part. being near to someone facilitates spontaneous communication and that communication leads to bonding.
We're more willing to connect with those who are similar to us. we tend to prefer people similar to ourselves.
Similarity bias - if you want to hit it off with someone, you should focus on your similarities or shared traits and characteristics
Final summary To improve a team's performance, you can put them in a position where they must face a big challenge together and let them compete against another team.