Happier at Home
Kiss More, Jump More, Abandon a Project, Read Samuel Johnson, and My Other Experiments in the Practice of Everyday Life
Ratings20
Average rating3.3
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Kiss More, Jump More, Abandon a Project, Read Samuel Johnson, and My Other Experiments in the Practice of Everyday Life
Ratings20
Average rating3.3
Tolstoy wrote, "Happy families are all alike; every unhappy family is unhappy in its own way." This is the statement that inspired bestselling author Gretchen Rubin to wonder whether she could foster an even greater happiness in her home. During The Happiness Project, the same questions kept tugging at her. How can I raise happy children? How can I maintain a tender, romantic relationship with my spouse--after fifteen years of marriage? How do I keep my Blackberry from taking over my private life? How can I foster a well-ordered, light-hearted atmosphere in my house, when no one else will lift a finger to cooperate? This book is Gretchen's account of her second journey in pursuit of happiness. Prescriptive, easy-to-follow, and anecdotal, Happier at Home offers readers a way of thinking and being that is positive and life-affirming. With specific examples following the calendar year, an intimate voice, and drawing from science and pop culture, this book will resonate with anyone looking to strengthen the bonds of family.
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I first read this book in November 2012, and here I am over three years later rereading it. This is the kind of book that makes more sense to read when you feel more settled. So many of Gretchen's thought processes and plans for each month resonated with me, and I'm excited to work on upping the game with my own happiness at home.
I ended up with a library book I wanted to finish and spin around. And at about 250 pages it was a quick read: Happier at Home, by Gretchen Rubin.
Sadly, I found it lacking. It's not written for me. It's about precisely what it sounds like: how to be happier in your home. Useful for those of us in places melting down with infections right now.
But I don't like the tone. She's a rich white woman who went to Yale and lives in New York with two kids and a husband. She gets to write books all day after having a successful law career at the top levels of the Supreme Court.
She basically puts all her eggs in family, kids, having the “right amount” of no doubt expensive possessions and making time for things like acupuncture.
I'm a gay man in Indiana who can't have kids, makes nowhere near that kind of money, has no family, and hates spending money.
Like I said, this book just wasn't written for me.
I found this book by looking for a list of books about long-term relationships and making them work. This was a very good read, not so much for relationships exactly but a way to frame your own thinking and life to get the most happiness out of it. She repeats throughout the book that you cannot control other people but you can control yourself. Making yourself happy makes the people around you happy.
Would highly recommend.
I really like Gretchen Rubin and her quest for self perfection. I vacillate between being inspired by her detailed, mindful thoughts of how to make tiny behavior changes to make life better (an approach that suits me as well) and being totally stressed by all the things she discovers she should be doing (and apparently successfully adopts as new habits!) that I am not doing. I really identified her quest to engage with her personal space (like home decoration stuff) rather than to follow her instinct of just not bothering. But then I get stressed out thinking about how I can improve my own space/life. Self help lit is like this as a rule I think, kind of enlightening but kind of stressful. So maybe I'll just shift back to mystery and fantasy.
The library's kindle version of this book was corrupted and was ruining my kindle reading experience (super slow) so I actually gave up about 40% through the book. But I think I got enough from it.
