Hestia Strikes a Match

I want to believe that this is a brilliant book and I am just not in a place to receive its brilliance. A...dating story (?) set in a US mid-second-civil-war. It feels like it was meant to be a commentary on how second-nature terrible things are nowadays that the main character perspective couldn't even focus on the war at hand and instead was recounting her dating escapades. I want to believe that it was intentional, but I'm not sure it was done artfully enough to get it all the way there.

I stopped at about 90% done because I felt I had better things to do and it didn't feel like it was ever going to nail the point home.