Inconvenient Daughter

Never has a book resonated with me quite like this one.
 
Like the protagonist Rowan (and the author, Sharkey), I was adopted as an infant by a Catholic family in New York State. (Theirs, Irish Catholic on Long Island; mine, Italian Catholic in Rochester.) We were “raised to be white,” which is a sentence I spent a while trying to articulate recently. While Rowan's path is not my own, I see in her story an alternate reality. 
 
I saw so many parts of myself in this book. For POC and Korean transracial adoptees, this is one of the most validating experiences – to be acknowledged, to be seen. Sharkey says it best: “You are Asian to the people around you but not to yourself.” Transracial adoptees exist in a liminal state. We're on the outside looking in, usually on both sides. Even if we're assimilated and consider ourselves mostly white, we still face othering. We're potentially considered more Korean than our biracial/hapa friends. When people pressure us to tell us where we're really from, they're always victorious when they poke hard enough for us to reveal that no, we weren't born in this country. 

All I have to say about this book is that if you want to begin exploring what Korean transracial adoption is like for adoptees from an #ownvoices perspective, find a copy of this book.