More Than Two

Exceptional. This is the relationship manual for thinking adults. Equal parts stuff I've long known (be kind; recognize other people; listen), stuff I've learned the hard way (listen even more; talk, too; set boundaries), and stuff I didn't yet know (on rules; on even better communication). The fact that Veaux and Rickert get the first two-thirds perfectly right assures me that they know what they're talking about in the other third. They are deeply moral and highly intelligent, a combination I'm fond of. They've lived and felt and thought, and I'm grateful to them for sharing their wisdom.

Written in a no-bullshit yet deeply compassionate voice, More Than Two is a pleasure to read. I wish I'd had it twenty years ago but am ecstatic to have it today.

This is a really excellent book even for monogamists!

I read this one and Opening Up because I have several poly friends and I wanted to understand more. Opening Up focused on all different forms of open relationships. This book, though, focuses specifically on polyamory, having multiple romantic relationships at once.

Because of the focus on intimate, romantic relationships – as opposed to exclusively sexual or swinging – the advice in this book is much more focused and clear cut. Specifically, the discussion around how to communicate with partners, consent, and boundaries is excellent. I'm monogamous and I am excited to apply many of the techniques discussed to my own marriage.

So, I recommend this book even for people who aren't interested in polyamory, but who are simply interested in how to maintain healthy romantic relationships that are high in trust and communication.