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When her father dies, Kay Wilkinson can’t cry. Over ten years, Alzheimer’s had steadily eroded this erudite man into a paranoid lunatic. Surely one’s own father passing should never come as such a relief. Both medical professionals, Kay and her husband Cyril have seen too many elderly patients in similar states of decay. Although healthy and vital in their early fifties, the couple fears what may lie ahead. Determined to die with dignity, Cyril makes a modest proposal. To spare themselves and their loved ones such a humiliating and protracted decline, they should agree to commit suicide together once they’ve both turned eighty. When their deal is sealed, the spouses are blithely looking forward to another three decades together. But then they turn eighty. By turns hilarious and touching, playful and grave, Should We Stay or Should We Go portrays twelve parallel universes, each exploring a possible future for Kay and Cyril. Were they to cut life artificially short, what would they miss out on? Something terrific? Or something terrible? Might they end up in a home? A fabulous luxury retirement village, or a Cuckoo’s Nest sort of home? Might being demented end up being rather fun? What future for humanity awaits—the end of civilization, or a Valhalla of peace and prosperity? What if cryogenics were really to work? What if scientists finally cure aging? Both timely and timeless, Lionel Shriver addresses serious themes—the compromises of longevity, the challenge of living a long life and still going out in style—with an uncannily light touch. Weaving in a host of contemporary issues, from Brexit and mass migration to the coronavirus, Shriver has pulled off a rollicking page-turner in which we never have to mourn perished characters, because they’ll be alive and kicking in the very next chapter.
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This is the first Lionel Shriver I've read and I'm instantly in love with her dialogue. Kay and Cyril feel so real, she brings them off the page and into my lounge. Through good and bad, sickness and health, their marriage feels very real and Shriver excels at the nuances of the human experience. However the book overall feels a bit of a slog, and the gimmick of ‘sliding doors' wore a bit after the 7th or 8th iteration.
Tackling events ranging from Brexit to Covid, the refugee crisis, the financial crises, elder abuse and climate change, Should We Stay or Should We Go is a sweeping yet intimate novel of two people who take charge of their fate. 3.5 stars rounded up for the gorgeous writing.
On one hand, it's always comforting to read such elaborate prose with the right choice of words and impeccable editing as Shriver's books always have. On the other hand, it's bizarre, a bit too bitter and political, and Kay and Cyril are not that interesting as to have their multiple destinies followed.
That said, it rang home because apparently im already at an age when this topic made sense to think about. Sigh.