Should you Leave? A Psychiatrist explores Intimacy and Autonomy - and the Nature of Advice

This dense book is full of gems, like:

Part of what looks like nurture may be the child's nature, expressed in parental reactions.

To speak intimately and clearly - not trying to please or bully the other, not trying to exaggerate one's degree of certainty or uncertainty - is to experience separateness, a frightening but crucial step on the road to mental health.

One can value superficial happiness as a strength, that capacity to get along in life and enjoy certain of its details even over an underlying feeling of emptiness or dread.