Splitting

I can't say that I read this book so much as I studied it. If you're just going to read it straight through without taking notes, it goes very quickly, otherwise, you may want to give yourself a couple days to really absorb everything. I can't overstate what a great resource it is. I've only owned my copy for two months and since then I've read, reread, and referred back to sections of it so many times that it looks like I've been carrying it around all year.

Some of the most important things you're going to learn from reading this book are: How to know when you're dealing with a BP or NP disorder based on what you've observed of the person, what the differences are between BPD and other similar/easily confused personality disorders, how people with BPD think, what to expect from BPD's during the divorce, how you can protect yourself from lies and false accusations, how to avoid escalations, and more.

Who should read this book? Anyone that suspects their spouse has a BPD and that a divorce may be in their future. It's best to arm yourself with this knowledge as far in advance as you can. I wish I had.

If you end up reading this book because you have to, I wish you the best of luck. Be sure to pace yourself; it's going to be an all out war, not just a “simple” court battle.