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Who hasn’t asked the question “How can I find and follow my true calling?” Elle Luna frames this moment as “standing at the crossroads of Should and Must.” “Should” is what we feel we ought to be doing, or what is expected of us. “Must” is the thing we dream of doing, our heart’s desire. And it was her own personal journey that inspired Elle Luna to write a brief online manifesto that, in a few short months, has touched hundreds of thousands of people who’ve read it or heard Elle speak on the topic. Now Ms. Luna expands her ideas into an inspirational, highly visual gift book for every recent graduate, every artist, every seeker, every career changer. The Crossroads of Should and Must has a universal message—we get to choose the path between Should and Must. And it gives every reader permission to embrace this message. It’s about the difference between jobs, careers, and callings. The difference between going to work and becoming one with your work. Why knowing what you want is often the hardest part. It gives eye-opening techniques for reconnecting with one’s inner voice, like writing your own obituary (talk about putting life in perspective). It talks about the most common fears of choosing Must over Should—money, time, space, and the ultimate fear: total vulnerability—and shores up our hesitation with inspiring stories of and quotes from the artists and writers and thinkers who’ve faced their own crossroads of Should and Must and taken the leap. It explains the importance of mistakes, of “unlearning,” of solitude, of keeping moving, of following a soul path. Presented in four chapters—The Crossroads, The Origin of Should, Must, and The Return—inspired by the hero’s journey outlined by Joseph Campbell, The Crossroads of Should and Must guides us from the small moment, discovering our Must, to the big moment—actually doing something about it, and returning to share our new gifts with the world.
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Although the art in this book is really beautiful, I feel that the information in it was really shallow and didn't have practical tips to really follow your “musts” instead of your “shoulds”.
Great book! I picked it up after hearing her interviewed on the unmistakeable creative podcast and I was not disappointed. I picked it up in a Barnes and Noble and read it all the way through in the store. It's a quick read, but I got a lot out of it. Very inspirational, I had many ideas while reading it and wrote them down for the future.
This book had a lot of lofty quotes and ideas about finding your calling but it was not as in-depth or engaging as other books I've read on the topic of identifying your life's mission and pursuing it. The painted quotes were cute but did not necessarily win me over.
If you're looking to finally do that thing you've always wanted to do but never even whispered it allowed to your significant other or pet, I'd recommend Julia Cameron's The Artist's Way or The right to Write over this book. Even if your life's calling is to join the Peace Corps, go back to school and get your law degree or something you don't think is creative, Cameron's book focuses on using writing and other specific activities to help you figure out what it is you want to do and mentally clear away your emotional baggage on the way. The Crossroads is a little too “top level”.