Devin

A wonderful book from an incredible person. Provides an eye opening look into all the challenges victims face in seeking justice for the harm done to them. It is maddening how damn difficult we make it for people to be heard and respected and believed. The share of the burden we place on survivors is truly unfair. This book highlights how hard the journey towards healing and even just surviving is and if it doesn't make you see changes are needed, then re read the book until you do. Also a big middle finger to Brock Turner and his indignant invalidation of the harm he caused and the things he took.

Wow. Just fascinating

Uffda. Mamie Till's pure strength and dedication to her son is moving. A kind of strength I hope to be able to channel a mere iota of at some point in my life

This book has some interesting science info but I wholeheartedly disagree with how it sets healing the relationships with your parents as an absolute must have for healing. I completely agree that one should have compassion for their parents and their own traumatic experiences but that does not mean you must absolve them of their failings and their impact on you. It should not be the child's responsibility minimize their experience and to do the work their parents won't do. Healing relationships is a two way street in unhealthy dynamics. I did not choose to be brought into a family unable to properly love a child and it is not my job to say what they did and didn't do is okay. It's great to pursue healing a relationship with your parents if both sides are willing to do the work. But it is most certainly not a child's responsibility to excuse their parents failings

Cannot recommend this book enough. Especially for anyone who has taken a different path in life than their family of origin, despite the difficulty in doing so. Probably going to to reread this now