A Stone's Throw: Inside the Stonefemme and Stonebutch Life

Masculine lesbians are generally referred to as "butch" or "stud," and feminine lesbians "femme," but what about those masculine females who are primarily male-identified but also not trans? And what about femmes who partner exclusively with these masculine females? Look no further - these are stones. Stonebutches (often called stonestuds or touch-me-not studs) and stonefemmes are much like the traditional butch-femme relationships we already know, but there's one important and singular difference - they fall outside the lesbian hierarchy where female to female sex is celebrated. Stone sexuality is a queer and hetero-erotic/non-heterosexual binary all its own.Although Leslie Feinberg's 1993 groundbreaking and much acclaimed Stone Butch Blues tackles the intersectionalities of transgender male, androgyny, butch lesbian, and third gender identities, it was published before current discourse developed while sharing more of the struggle and less of the joy.In A Stone's Throw, Victoria Darling invites you into her inner experiences of coming to terms with and making space for her stonefemme identity and self-expression. She weaves together nonfiction essays, short shorts, poetry, and tasteful erotic content to 'sculpt' a window into this libertine world where gender and sexuality are defined by both sexual attraction *and* sexual limitation. Victoria shows you what it means to love a touch-me-not butch, and how it strengthens and empowers women like her and the stonebutches they love.Victoria delights us with situational humor ("Lucy Goes Camping"), rails against oppressors ("Greedy and Selfish"), grieves a lover ("Melted Stone"), sifts through the difficulties of social erasure ("Femme Invisibility"), and brings the sexy 2008 Vanity Fair cover photo with KD Lang and Cindy Crawford's barber-chair scene to life ("A Close Shave").Grab a copy today. You'll be delighted and surprised.