Chatter

2.5 stars. I feel like I am the perfect audience for this book but I didn't glean as much from it as I wish I had. I did, however, like the tip Kross had about mental distancing and relating your stressors from a second or third person perspective, which might help me out when I next go into an anxiety spiral.

A major problem with this book is that it assumes a very specific, neurotypical perspective. While I don't necessarily think Kross needed to have gone into every different type of neurodivergence out there since that isn't the objective of his book, a simple statement to acknowledge that this isn't “one size fits all” advice would've been very much appreciated. Not everyone has inner voices nor do they think in words. I would consider myself neurotypical, but I don't think in words to myself all the time - my anxiety spiral tends to serve me images and scenes, often upsetting ones.

Similarly, a lot of concepts in the book is painted with very broad strokes. I understand that this is, on some level, necessary for the book's marketability and simply because it's aimed to cater to the most “common” mental behaviours, but it sometimes feels a bit alienating, even for myself.

Kross provides about 7 tips for reducing chatter and I don't think all of them would help for everyone out there, so I wish there was more, and also more hands-on advice. I felt like I only really had one good tip from this whole book. I'm thankful for that, but also wished there was more.