Dear Wendy

Genre: YA/NA Fiction (kinda like a romance but make it platonic)
Pub date: TODAY! (April 16)
Narration: First person present tense, dual POV
Diversity: aroace, nonbinary, Chinese American main characters
Rating: 3.6⭐

Dear Wendy is about two students at Wellesley who both give relationship/life advice anonymously on instagram to their fellow students. But one in a sincere and thorough way (Sophie) and the other in a sarcastic and funny way (Jo). They quickly become rivals, while becoming friends in real life. They're also both aroace (aromantic and asexual).

This felt like a nod to many of the romcoms of my life growing up, (Jo's last name is even Ephron!) but in a platonic friendship way. The main story is inspired by You've Got Mail.

I loved that the main message of this book was that you don't need a romantic relationship to have love and fulfillment in your life. How important friendships and the feeling of belonging can be, and how love is not reserved just for romance. This is good to internalize not just for aromantic people but alloromantics as well. I loved how much the two main characters cared about each other, and their budding friendship felt genuine. It also showed how much finding people who are similar to you can make you feel accepted in a special way.

I also really appreciated all the different representations in the book, both a-spec and not. There were trans characters, sapphic characters, demisexual and so on. Sophie has known she's aroace for a while but for Jo it's much newer. This offers nuanced takes into navigating a world that often prioritizes romance.

There were two main aspects I didn't enjoy. But I don't want that to take away from the fact that it's also a very valuable book to read and exist. I'd highly recommend this book, especially if you wouldn't be bothered by the following.

My main issue with it is how much Jo is working against her friends for most of the book. Friendships are incredibly important to me, which is why I greatly appreciated the importance the book gives friendships, but I hated Jo for their thoughts and actions for most of the book. (small spoiler) They do eventually own up to the fact that they messed up, and I think their feelings do make sense with them coming to terms with their aroace identity, but it was painful for me to read those parts.

The other thing I didn't love was their online feud. Especially when it was more one sided, it genuinely felt like bullying and made me very uncomfortable to root for the character(s). Not cute, not funny, just rude. I would have immediately blocked them.

There are other aspects of this book I could nitpick, like some conversations that could have gone a bit deeper, how the third act breakup was unnecessary, but these were smaller issues that didn't impact my overall enjoyment.

Thank you to Macmillan Books, Feiwel and Friends and NetGalley for the eARC!