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"A daughter of Korean immigrants, Hyeseung Song spends her earliest years in the cane fields of Texas where her loyalties are divided between a restless father in search of Big Money, and a beautiful yet domineering mother whose resentments about her own life compromise her relationship with her daughter. ... When the family's fake Gucci business lands them in bankruptcy, Song moves to a new elementary school. ... Neither rich nor white, Song does what is necessary to be visible: she internalizes the model minority myth as well as her beloved mother's dreams to see her on a secure path. Song meets these expectations by attending the best Ivy League universities in the country. But when she wavers, in search of an artistic life on her own terms, her mother warns, 'Happiness is what unexceptional people tell themselves when they don't have the talent and drive to go after real success.' Years of self-erasure take a toll and Song experiences recurring episodes of depression and mania. ... Song enters a psychiatric hospital where she meets patients with similar struggles. So begins her sweeping journey to heal herself by losing everything"--
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There is a fine and complicated line between devotion and sacrifice. This candid and beautifully written memoir captures the varied thoughts and emotions of striving to be a devoted daughter or partner while learning not to sacrifice one's self, dreams, and ambitions. It prompts us, Korean-American or not, to consider how much to give of ourselves to those we love. I couldn't put it down and finished in a day.