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Average rating3.8
The core of this book is quite good:
- we assume our emotional concepts (happiness, fear, anger) are universal, and even extend to related mammals, when in fact they are socially constructed. I think the author does a good job of demonstrating the social nature of emotion, and tearing down the classical view of emotion
- emotions, feelings, affect originate from within, rather than being events that happen to us. Page 57: “Your river of feelings might feel like it's going over you, but actually you're the river's source”
- we can be misguided about the origin of our affect, and make fundamental attribution errors. This can negatively affect our decision making
- emotions don't have concrete ‘fingerprints', emotions are really statistical clumps with a wide range of variance
- emotions aren't rooted to a single part of the brain. I was quite surprised to learn that you can experience fear, even without an amygdala!
I do think this book could be much shorter than it is without losing it's essential points. Some of the chapters here are quite speculative, and much weaker than the early core. In ‘Mastering Your Emotions', she quotes the emotional intelligence guy saying “For star performance in all jobs, in every field, emotional competence is twice as important as purely cognitive abilities”. What is EI if not a cognitive ability? Assuming that he means IQ, I remain unconvinced that EI can account for any variance in job performance not already caught by IQ, agreeableness, and maybe conscientiousness. Our author then goes on to say we can improve our emotional regulation by learning more words and listening to ‘thought-provoking audio content like National Public Radio'. Ugh, ok? She does at least present a study in favor of the former, but it's not clear from the text whether the effect was due to more granular description of the participants' emotions, or them dissociating more from their affect/emotion (would also like to see replications).
I stopped during the legal system chapter, where a lot of strong claims seemed to be drawn from flimsy evidence (2017 was pre-replication crisis in social psychology, right?), and I figured I wasn't going to learn much more from the last few chapters.