It's good, but felt like there were some missing parts.
Such as doesn't Jeff have any family? I know it's her memoir, but I'd imagine that his family or lack of family might have impacted her and the possible creation of the next generation. Jeff comes off as a drifter, albeit a perfect one.
I would have appreciated the other elephants in the room, such as her ethical views of the fertility process, we get a glimpse of that but not the heart of the matter. She struggles with the idea of potentially eliminating extra fetuses if there would be too many, and I appreciate knowing her thoughts and feelings on that, it makes her more real, human. However, I, at times, struggle with the ethics of fertility treatments (mostly is it right for people to spend so much money, effort, resources, and so on to produce children that otherwise would probably not exist when there are so many in foster care or are in need of guardians?) and would have liked to know her thoughts on them, even if it was a dismissive acknowledgment, like, ‘I'm not even going to get into the ethics/mores/values of going through this process...‘
sigh, something.
I wanted her to go deeper.
Why did she want to be a mom, I understand there are so many reasons, but what are HER reasons? It's her memoir. Did Jeff really want to be a parent? There was a detail here or there that sure he wanted to be a dad, but to me it came off more that he was a ‘supportive husband'. (Did I miss something?)
I did like the end. I am not mean spirited but I am glad that it didn't end in a happy ending with her magically becoming pregnant and that she had further to go on her journey to one day becoming a parent.
I loved her attitude with medical staff; I'm the friend and family member that goes to the hospital with you and helps you crack jokes with the doctor.
Various parts did make me laugh, life is messy, complicated, and at times funny or otherwise necessarates laughter.
Picked it up due to Gorey's illustrations.
There were some sections that I enjoyed such as ‘Garden Variety' (yay plant puns) and ‘Middle Age'.
“Middle age is very difficult to chart
Since no one really knows where to start
But simple calculation gets the figure down pat
It begins a decade later than wherever you're at”
However, I found most of it to be not to my taste.
So good with lovely prose, such as:
“Someone” is a serpent of a word. It has fangs, and it can bite. It had bitten me, and now I had to go.
and
When I was very small, no more than a comma of a creature compared to the pages and paragraphs of my parents, they used to tell me stories of the world outside the wood. “It's terrible there,” said my mother, shivering. “Their sense is nonsense, and their nonsense is sense. You can trust nothing outside the wood. Nothing. All of it waits only to destroy you.”
Fantastic, albeit arguably ‘additional', world building, “The distance between the Tulgey Wood and the City of Hearts is always the same. When the city grows beyond its current borders, the road will stretch like the finest taffy, carrying it farther from the tree line, and keeping the people of both places safe.”
More great prose: Mirrors coated the walls, bouncing our reflections back and forth between them until we became an infinity.
Excellent style. Loved the range of topics subtly and not so subtly approached and covered. race, gender, class, age, group ties... As well as the reoccurring themes and details that may or may not have hinted at some sense of cohesion such as decor, names, colors, settings...
Sometimes I waited for it to ‘get there', in other places I savored the journey to the arrival.