Like pretty much all general non-fiction books, I just feel it could have been shorter. I wish non-fiction wasn't afraid of being 100 great pages rather than 300 mediocre ones.
It is also very, very much a product of its publication date. COVID and racial tension in the US form the framework for understanding the myth of closure, whereas I would argue that just a few years later, the wholesale destruction of the American experiment and climate grief would be better frameworks today.
All that said, this has a lot to say about grief and I think it is a valuable read for pretty much anyone. The sister book here is absolutely Frankl's Man's Search for Meaning. They are almost two sides of the same coin.
Pleasure :: 1 Purpose :: 3 Plot :: 3 Prose :: 4 Personal :: 1
Avg → ⭐️⭐️ ½ rounding down
This won the Pulitzer in 2022 for autobiography/memoir. It was fine. It did some things well -- speaking to the Asian immigrant experience (though not as well as *How Far the Light Reaches*) and recalling the solipsism of college students.
But it steps all over itself with the relentless pretension-ness of that same self-centered college student. It feels like the author is still in that space. Perhaps he is.
I def would have def'd it had it been any longer... It was well-written though -- had very high hopes at the outset, for sure. I guess that Harvard PhD was worth it.
It is a time travel story, so I have yet to read a plot that can really hold up with time travel, but this one does pretty well. It is a love story more than anything else. But also really interrogates the concepts of cowardice and heroism. Colonialism and the nature of history and the value of shared mythology. Which feels surprising for something written in such a breezy style.
Pleasure :: 4 - Can't really call this a 'pleasurable' read in any traditional sense of the word, but read it in essentially one sitting. Accessible, frank, engaging.
Purpose :: 4 - Does not hold back, but is not salacious in any way. Interrogates assumptions and interweaves art and literary analysis in a way I haven't seen.
Plot :: 4
Prose :: 3
Personal :: 3
Avg → ⭐️⭐️⭐️ ½
I am not sure even how to classify the genre here. Thriller? True crime? Retelling? Whatever it was, it was very good. It isn't a thriller because the story is so well known, so no thrills. Not true crime because it is fully fictionalized. I guess it is a retelling. And like all *good* retellings, it tells you something new. 10/10 would recommend.