I was pretty intimidated going into this book as I have never read any philosophy at all let alone feminist philosophy, but I was also excited as it seemed like an interesting topic to explore in depth! And it was!!!

The first segment of the book definitely made me worry about what I had put myself into. The first three or so chapters are about biology and go on and on about things that didn’t interest me at all in a dry manner. Thankfully after this section was over it really picked up and I found myself actually engaged in a way I wasn’t expecting! After the dry biology section it first goes into the history of how women have been treated over the years and how we got where we are today (or today 75 years ago), and then in the second half of the book explores the life of women from childhood to old age in detail, showing how social norms form who you eventually become.

The book explores so many different topics and puts words to ideas I have thought about but delves more into detail on them than my brain ever did on its own. It gave new perspectives on a lot of stuff! It also gave me a bunch of new stuff to think about that I hadn’t thought about before, things that has impacted how I see my relation to my mom and my sister, even my dad. Friends, myself. How I see their actions, how I process my own thoughts. I learned a lot from reading it, and that’s a really nice feeling :D

I can’t say I grasped everything the book has to offer, after all it is extremely dense. But I gained a lot from it, and for that I think it was well worth the time I put into it!

A BOOK MADE ME CRY!!! FINALLY!!! I THOUGHT BOOKS WEREN’T ABLE TO MAKE ME CRY BUT THIS ONE MANAGED TO DO SO WOOOOOO!!!!

The book does the thing where it starts at the end where you get to see this big tragic event to come, then it goes back in time to show the context of how things got there and why we should care. Making me care is something it very much succeeded in doing. I ended up caring so much for these characters that realizing we were moving closer and closer to the event the book started with made this book so stressful but also so rewarding.

It is kinda slow at the start. Not necessarily slow pacing, I think the book was really well paced honestly! I mean, I did read it all in one day. What I mean is it didn’t really have its claws in me at first, it needed time to make me realize that oh yeah this is genuinely a great story. There came a point about 2/3 through the book where I realized “fuck, this is actually such a good book!!!” and then the last third was some of the most engaging stuff I’ve read this year!

The book’s biggest strength is the characters, I love them so much!!! I love Joan and I love Vanessa and I especially love Frances!!!!!! Frances is so adorable and so innocent and so smart! The whole Frances story is what resonated with me the most, the young child who doesn’t feel seen or loved. I’m getting teary eyed just writing about it here. Her relationship with Joan is just so sweet I can’t help it! Joan and Vanessa’s love is also great. This is a lesbian love story set in the 1980’s when being gay was still not very welcomed by society, and the book really leans into that to make their relationship both painful and really really sweet. You really want to root for them, for things to be okay!

I wasn’t completely sure about the book in the beginning. This is like the fourth book I’ve read within a month about how women are treated in a male centered world so it kinda felt like a repeat of stuff I’ve already read recently. But the further and further I got into it the more I realized I really really do love these characters. And the more I loved the characters, the more I realized how impactful the ending would be. Then the ending came and it was sooooo good!!!!

Read this book!!!

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