Middag på "Hjemlengsel"

This is one of the best books I've ever read.
I'm reading this and I keep thinking “so THIS is what Jonathan Franzen wants to write...”
I don't understand how she does it. It's at the same time raw and awful and crude and cruel and so very soft, sensitive, subtle, and kind.
And then the ending... I kept hating Pearl and despising Beck, and none of the characters was really likable, but... they were so... real. They weren't supposed to be likable. People aren't likable. They do sometimes nice things and then they do horrible things, and... it really doesn't matter. People are people. The ending made it all all right. It's OK. Good enough. Fine. Everything is fine. It was a very satisfying end.
I was discussing this with my husband. I like endings that wrap things up but don't end the story. All these people will continue their lives and have more stories to tell, but I am satisfied and pleased, and I love this book.