What Shamu Taught Me About Life, Love, and Marriage
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While observing trainers of exotic animals, journalist Amy Sutherland had an epiphany: What if she used their techniques with the human animals in her own life–specifically her dear husband, Scott? As Sutherland put training principles into action, she noticed that not only did her twelve-year-old marriage improve, but she herself became more optimistic and less judgmental. What started as a goofy experiment had such good results that Sutherland began using the training techniques with all the people in her life, including her mother, her friends, her students, even the clerk at the post office. Full of fun facts, fascinating insights, hilarious anecdotes, and practical tips, What Shamu Taught Me About Life, Love, and Marriage reveals the biggest lesson Sutherland learned: The only animal you can truly change is yourself.
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I should have taken notes while I read this book.
Sutherland is sent to write a newspaper article about exotic animal trainers. In the process of writing the article, she realizes that the training techniques of the animal trainers are the same ones we humans use, albeit unconsciously and not very well, on our spouses, our friends, and our children.
This book is Sutherland's attempt to show how she was able to take the methods of the trainers and purposefully apply them to change situations in her own life.
Is it really that easy?
Well, of course not.
But if Sutherland thinks it has made her a better person, a happier person, than I think it is worth it for me to go back through the book and take notes and try some of these things out.
Here are my notes:
“It's never the animal's fault.”
“Train every animal like it's a killer whale,” as if you can neither move it by force or dominate it.
“Everything with a mouth bites.”
“Reward the behavior you want and ignore the behavior you don't want.”
“Any interaction is training.”
“Don't take it personally. See behavior as just behavior.”
“Set your animal up for success.”
“People, like animals, aren't wired to learn lessons when they are out of sorts.”
“Punishment produces hatred, fear, desire for revenge, aggression, and apathy.”
“Keep your animals happy.”
“If one method of training isn't working, try another.”
“Least Reinforcing Scenario”
“Incompatible behaviors.”
“Go back to kindergarten.”
