The Vanishing American Adult

This originally appeared at The Irresponsible Reader.
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I typically don't like to do this, but in the interest of time, I'm just going to use the text from the publisher's page to describe the book:
Raised by well-meaning but overprotective parents and coddled by well-meaning but misbegotten government programs, America's youth are ill-equipped to survive in our highly-competitive global economy.Many of the coming-of-age rituals that have defined the American experience since the Founding: learning the value of working with your hands, leaving home to start a family, becoming economically self-reliant—are being delayed or skipped altogether. The statistics are daunting: 30% of college students drop out after the first year, and only 4 in 10 graduate. One in three 18-to-34 year-olds live with their parents.From these disparate phenomena: Nebraska Senator Ben Sasse who as president of a Midwestern college observed the trials of this generation up close, sees an existential threat to the American way of life.In The Vanishing American Adult, Sasse diagnoses the causes of a generation that can't grow up and offers a path for raising children to become active and engaged citizens. He identifies core formative experiences that all young people should pursue: hard work to appreciate the benefits of labor, travel to understand deprivation and want, the power of reading, the importance of nurturing your body—and explains how parents can encourage them.Our democracy depends on responsible, contributing adults to function properly—without them America falls prey to populist demagogues. A call to arms, The Vanishing American Adult will ignite a much-needed debate about the link between the way we're raising our children and the future of our country.
The first third or so is Sasse laying out the problems with the 30-and-younger set (and the parents and grandparents that got them and their society in the sorry state they're in). The next two-thirds are his suggested solutions, what he believes parents can do to help raise a generation with the necessary rigor and grit to make it. Nothing here can be implemented like blueprints – these are all just things to get parents thinking. Even if the reader disagrees with Sasse (as I do frequently), you get the feeling that he's more concerned with people and parents thinking about these ideas and doing something about them, even if it's what he doesn't think needs to be done.

There's a chapter devoted to helping our children and teens become critical readers – talking about the necessity of being more than just functionally literate, but people that interact with books – good books, as well as entertaining books. People reading this blog should find a lot to love (and a little to demur with) in this chapter – I almost listened to it twice in a row it was so good.

The book is largely a-political. Yes, politics does enter into it. Yes, if you agree with him (before or after reading the book), it'll likely lead to certain political moves – but people on all points on the political spectrum should be able to get something out of this book. Just because Sasse is a U.S. Senator, don't think that this is a book about that. He does highly value “republican” values – but he usually goes out of his way to stress that it's “small-R republican” he's referring to. Ditto for the Christian point of view he writes from – Sasse's very up-front about that, but goes out of his way to show how non-Christians (or even Christians from different traditions) can agree with much of the book, or disagree constructively.

There was problem with the audiobook – there's no text to refer to. There's so much that you want to go back and re-read, notes you want to take, quotations/citations you'd like to double check. The literature chapter alone needs to be re-read. And it's just such a pain to do all that with an audiobook. Trust me, get the hardcopy. The audiobook is a very effective advertisement for the hardcover. It is good to hear Sasse read this himself.

There's a lot of this book that I just don't get – I'm not saying he's wrong, necessarily, but I don't think he's always as right as he thinks he is. But I'm telling you, I thought a lot about what he talked about – I talked a lot about the content of this book. I'm looking for ways to put some of this into practice, and wish I'd done a better job of doing it years ago.

Agree with it or not, this is a book well worth reading.

I've read worse, but it was a pretty rambling reflection of what he had done with his kids and how he thought they'd turned out pretty sweet so you might want to absorb his wise ways.

It was hard to formulate a call to action in my life based on this meandering collection of stories. I do agree with a few of the more core principles, letting our kids fail more and try to do big adult things more so they learn how to operate independently is a recurring point to his anecdotes.

I did feel like the spinning of early U.S. history was a bit “good ol' days” leaning, but I wasn't as offended too much by that.